What is emotionally focused therapy?
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is a type of talk therapy that emphasizes the influence of emotional experience in psychotherapeutic change. It operates on the premise that emotional responsiveness underpins healthy attachments, thus improving this can enhance secure connections. EFT is typically used to address relationship distress, and negative patterns or interaction cycles between romantic partners.
With roots in attachment theory, EFT aims to help clients process and communicate suppressed or underlying emotions to improve self-awareness in the context of resolving relationship issues. Through focused couples therapy or emotionally focused family therapy sessions, clients work to accept their emotions and understand their partner's feelings.
This therapeutic approach is comprised of three stages:
- De-escalation: Focuses on reducing negative interactions to create a safer emotional environment.
- Restructuring interactions: Aims to improve emotional responsiveness and foster positive cycles of interaction.
- Consolidation: Solidifies the changes, integrating new interaction patterns into the relationship's fabric for long-term stability.
During these stages, the therapist helps the couple or family identify attachment-related insecurities, needs, and interaction patterns, reframing key relationship issues and promoting emotional awareness.










