Tips to boost self-esteem in teenagers
The methods you use to treat adolescent clients fundamentally differ from those used to treat both adult and child clients. Adolescents are often experiencing a turbulent period of their lives, on the brink of adulthood, and faced with new challenges. It can be quite common for teens to experience low self-esteem, but fortunately, there are a number of different yet simple ways that you can help your clients counteract this.
Praise efforts
Praising efforts over outcomes is important for showing teenagers that the work they put in is what matters, rather than the consequences. For example, if your client performs well on their exam, you should praise the study they did rather than the specific score or result.
Encourage self-improvement
Self-improvement can help show teenagers that working toward achieving goals is more productive than dwelling on failures or limitations. Teenagers often overdramatize their shortcomings, deciding that they are “dumb” if they struggle in a certain class.
When these situations occur, you may encourage them to set goals pertaining to limitations or weaknesses they perceive in themselves. At the same time, you should emphasize that making mistakes is both inevitable and a valuable part of the learning process.
Impart assertiveness skills
Learning how to be assertive is an important skill to develop. An assertive teenager will be able to communicate effectively with peers, teachers, and family. They may be less likely to succumb to peer pressure and will be able to explain their needs and wants to others, ultimately boosting self-esteem.
Encourage new opportunities
Developing new skills and being exposed to different opportunities are fantastic tools for improving confidence. You could take the time to get to know your clients and encourage them to pick up a new sport, instrument, hobby, or general interest they may have.
Build self-worth
It's important that teenagers don't externalize the source of their self-worth but rather establish a strong basis of self-worth internally. This can be difficult to achieve, but by encouraging your client to develop a strong set of values and showing them the benefits of being a kind and caring person, you should be able to work towards this goal. You can utilize this Self-Worth Worksheet to support this.