Adult attachment styles
Within attachment literature, there is a spectrum of behaviors and cognitions within close emotional relationships (especially with romantic partners). These traits cluster around four key adult attachment styles. Most people display traits across the continuum of attachment styles but typically will adopt one primary style which underpins how they perceive and behave within close relationships.
Autonomous attachment patterns
Also known as secure attachment, the autonomous attachment style is characterized by low levels of avoidance or anxiety towards the other person. These people are comfortable with intimacy and not overly preoccupied with the relationship or the potential of rejection.
Individuals in these relationships are not overly independent or dependent on their partners and tend to maintain healthy boundaries. In theory, secure attachment patterns are established in infancy when children are confident their parental figure will provide consistent comfort and security.
Preoccupied attachment patterns
Also known as anxious attachment, this style is characterized by low avoidance and high anxiety. It often involves hyper fixation on the other person, and especially ongoing anxiety around the potential for the person to reject or leave them. Typically, these people want very close relationships, feel insecure or require constant reassurance, and crave intimacy.
Infants with anxious attachment patterns will often maintain this style into adulthood. In theory, infants will form anxious attachments is the attachment figure is inconsistently available or present when they need them. Often this results in low self-esteem or a negative self-construct.
Dismissive attachment patterns
Dismissing attachment patterns (also known as avoidant) are characterized by high avoidance and low anxiety. High independence, low trust and uncomfortableness with intimacy are common traits. These people tend to have a positive self model, but view others negatively. This typically leads them to avoid seeking social support or closeness, or depending on others.
Dismissing attachment patterns often begin as avoidant attachment to parents in early childhood. Infants form avoidant attachments when they feel the caregiver consistently fails to meet their needs or be available, leading to over reliance on the self and low trust.
Fearful-avoidant or disorganized patterns
Fearful-avoidant attachments are characterized by high avoidance and anxiety, where an individual may crave closeness and intimacy whilst being uncomfortable with it and having difficulty trusting others in close relationships. Often, these people will fluctuate between avoidant and anxious behavior depending on their mood and circumstances, meaning they in turn provide inconsistent affection or energy to the other person in the relationship.
Often considered the most maladaptive, disorganized attachment patterns are rare. They often are the result of abusive or neglectful parenting which prevents the child from learning to regulate their emotions.