What are the stages of grief?
The concept of the five stages of grief, developed by renowned psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, provides a framework for understanding the emotional journey individuals typically experience when facing loss. Whether it's the passing of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or the loss of a job, these stages offer insight into the range of emotions one may encounter. The different stages are the following:
Denial
This is the most common starting stage that people go through whenever they experience grief. During this stage, a grieving person will struggle with the fact that they have experienced a loss and will not accept it. They will be in shock and disbelief, and they will feel numb after a while and even become disoriented. Those who are in denial do not yet want to accept living in a new reality where they have to accept that a loss has occurred and move on without it.
Anger
Once the shock is over and the numbness dissipates, sometimes, people start to feel angry. They may become frustrated and start expressing anger and resentment as a means of coping, whether they do it positively or negatively. During this stage, the person will direct their anger at themselves, perhaps others, a higher being, the world, healthcare professionals, etc., as a way to cope with the pain of loss and for having feelings like being powerless to do anything against it.
Bargaining
This is more common when people have to deal with the fact that a loved one is about to die or if something unfavorable is about to happen. They try to find ways to stall the inevitable and may start to ask or beg for another chance, try to find another solution, ask a higher power for help, etc. It's a way for people to keep hope alive in themselves, even for naught.
Depression
This is when it finally comes crashing down on the person that the loss has occurred or it is inevitable, and there's nothing they can do about it. The grieving person will begin withdrawing, and they will feel sadness well up, emptiness, devastation, loss of interest in doing many things, loss of sleep, and despair.
Acceptance
This is the final stage of grief. Once a person reaches this stage, they have finally come to terms with the loss. During this stage, someone who lost a loved one will let go while cherishing the love and memories they have for the person. They will now adjust to and adapt to a new reality without them, most likely developing coping skills along the way.
It is important to note that these stages can change often, and may not occur linearly. The five stages may not happen in order, and that is completely normal.
Common symptoms of grief
Grief can look different in everyone. However, there are some common symptoms that most people experience at some point in their journey.
- Crying often
- Anxiety
- Fatigue
- Trouble sleeping
- Trouble eating
- Questioning your beliefs and life
- Isolation
- Attachment to others
- Stress
- Aches and pains
- Guilt
- Frustration
- Worry
Treatment for grief
Grief is a natural process that cannot be cured - but the pain certainly can be alleviated through effective treatment. Antidepressants and medication (including sleep aid) may be a solid option, as well as grief support groups. Individual counseling and therapy are also commonly used and are clinically proven to help individuals ease the pain and make the grief process more manageable. In some cases, prolonged grief can cause major depressive disorder (MDD), and so in these instances, it is key to reach out to a mental health professional or practitioner for diagnosis and appropriate treatment.










