Imago Therapy Worksheets

This worksheet should be completed by couples seeking some form of relationship counseling. While it will be most effective if both members of the relationship complete the worksheet, this worksheet could also be completed by one member in order to better understand their own “hidden agenda”.

Imago Relationship Therapy or IRT is a type of therapy developed by Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt, and popularized following the publication of the book “Getting the Love You Want” (1988). The fundamental principle of IRT is that our childhood relationships and frustrations with those that cared for us, such as parents, family members, or guardians, underpin the features we seek in our romantic relationships later in life. As such, by understanding our childhood frustrations, we can better understand why we react the way we do in certain situations, or why we seek out romantic partners with certain positive and negative traits.

The activities in this Imago Therapy Worksheet should be completed somewhere quiet and private, and by each member of the couple independently. This will help to prevent either of them from being influenced and improve their honesty in their completion of the exercises.